FAQ: A tire? Attire!

Wondering what to wear to a re-wedding?

Here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • unlike the typical banquet hall, the church does NOT have any air conditioning. NONE. It will be warm inside. Wear something light and breathable, like linen. Synthetic fibres are not encouraged (unless your rayon is made of bamboo) and if you can please do consider bringing an electric fan with you to plug in (no joke)
  • the ceremony will be happening outside on grass. Thin heels will likely sink into the grass. Consider a slightly thicker heel to prevent grass stains and getting muddied
  • you may choose to lawn bowl! Consider wearing a dress long enough that you can toss around a ball and bend over comfortably (no joke there either 🙂  )

Keep it fun!

  • why not wear bright colours?
  • why not wear something that makes you feel great, even if it isn’t “weddingy” it is probably re-weddingy 🙂
  • why not wear something light and summery.

This isn’t a traditional formal affair. We’re trying to keep it fun and personal. No need to wear a jacket, or a cummerbund (unless you’d like to, in which case, AWESOME!!), but why not include something neato like a suspender or an ascot (I kid, I kid… unless you too think those are awesome)

Mostly, we’re just happy to see you!


FAQ: Gifts

First, many many thanks to those of you who have generously asked us if we are registered anywhere or if we need any specific things. We really appreciate your generosity and thoughtfulness. As you likely know, we live in a modest space that is filled sunshine, and are saving our pennies to one day purchase a small home in Toronto that we can call our own. It would be very helpful if you could help us save for our future nest. At present, we don’t have space for many things, but would love a few select things to help us out in our favourite space: the kitchen. Including this and this.

Shopping local and supporting small businesses is really important to both of us. So, we’ve asked Mika at Good Egg to help us create a registry at her shop. Good Egg offers a 20% discount on all Le Crueset purchases, features all of the majors brands that you’d find at larger shops, stocks cute tschotchkes, and runs classes (knife skills!). If you give Mika a call or email, she will help you out with the few things on our list. You can pop by the shop, or order with her over the phone. (new note: there is no need to pick up your gift. Mika will tuck it away, and we can pick it up (just let us know!)




FAQ: Is your marriage legal?

We’ve been asked if our Gibraltar marriage is legally binding, and if Catherine has the power to legally wed us. 

The Answer:
YES! Our Gibraltar marriage that Lionel Anthony Victory conducted and which took place in the Alameda Gardens is legally binding internationally. So, no, we do not need to have a legal wedding in Canada.

NO! Catherine does not have the power to legally wed us, and she does not need to since we are already legally wed. By the power vested in us and her kitties, Poppy and Pear, Catherine has the power to wish us well in our life together and to lead us through the marriage ceremony.

A Re-Marriage Comedy*

Going to the altar in Gibraltar, and finding a partner at St. George the Martyr.

After having had a lovely, private ceremony in Gibraltar, we noticed that we were missing a special ingredient to make our marriage complete: our family and friends. So, we’re doing it over again! We hope that you’ll join us on July 5th to celebrate the coming together of two families, two circles of friends, and the start of a new family.

Fun Fact: Did you know that in the Scottish Hebrides a handfasting only lasts for a year, unless a child is born? After the year is up the handfasting can be renewed, or the couple can choose to part.  It will be a year, a month, and a day for us. So, I guess it is time to renew .




*The re-marriage comedy is a term coined by philosopher and film theorist, Stanley Cavell. It refers to a group of fast talking comedy films from the 1940’s in which a divorced couple ends up remarrying, for example, The Philadelphia Story (1940) starring Cary Grant and Katharine Hepburn.

Looking back

We’ve legally been wed for two weeks now, at least in Gibraltar and hopefully other places (I kid, I kid. About the at least part anyway). It’s felt pretty special to be able to enjoy each other’s company for this long. And, it’s been so incredible to receive messages of support from everyone. Thank you all so much for your encouragement and your understanding. It really means so much to both of us to have everyone’s support.
Eloping is often that event that people threaten to do when wedding planning becomes too much. Or, actually, for us it was the thing that my parents joked about, and the destination wedding that some wanted to join. For us, it was a way to celebrate our relationship between us, and to solidify the commitment that we had already been living.
Choosing Gibraltar was easy. It’s the only place in Europe where you can show up and be married. Spain requires you to live there for 30 days, so does Hungary and France. And there were awful stories about paperwork being lost in Italy. The tiny room and running around the neighbourhood was a one day fiasco, but it was only one day, and we got to see macaques and caves which was awesome.
We were married, but we haven’t had a wedding. The date was shifted, and Z has sent several emails to solidify the date to no avail. Sometime next spring there will be a wedding during which we will get to share and bring together our family and friends. We are so excited for this. We’ve planned lots of fun things for the day!